OKC or Bust!
For the majority of my married life I’ve been a patch wife, which meant independence was key and basically raising our three boys as a single parent.
Spring break-up of 2013 seemed to last a little longer than previous years and by mid-summer hubby was presented an opportunity to head down to Oklahoma City to help run the expanded company there. Off he went, excited and nervous all at once. Although I was completely used to the “solo” life I had a hard time being apart so many miles & for insane amounts of time. I could handle a couple of weeks, but 30+ days at a time? Not so much! 2 years passed, kids grew up and moved out and I found myself feeling more alone than ever.
In 2015 hubby was offered a promotion – to head a division of the company!! Exciting right? The only catch was they wanted him there full time, which meant uprooting our family. At first a new adventure seemed quite appealing…having our family together, new house, new surroundings & let’s be honest – outlet malls!! I travelled there a few times & had some fabulous moments but it quickly became clear that the family unit we had envisioned was not likely. Hubby was busy 24/7 – phone calls, emails, meetings, travel, etc. Not our idea of perfection. Being closer together did not mean we’d be close…not in the slightest.
We knew we needed to make a decision & we did. We chose US. We chose not to move away from our 2 older boys, new grandson & both of our extended family support systems. We chose to stay put and continue to build on life here. Besides, moving our youngest from the small town he grew up in to tornado alley hardly seemed fair. Maybe not the safest decision when oil crashed and so many people were shutting down and out of work. We knew we’d be facing some harsh times & weren’t exactly financially prepared. The true tests were coming…shit was about to get real. But we were together & at the end of the day, that’s really all that matters. Because no one can take that away from you…